Science can tell us how to repair a damaged heart, but it doesn’t tell us whether we ought to operate.But its never the data alone that determines right or wrong. Of course, we can use scientific data to help us make moral decisions. Science can only reveal what is it can’t tell us what should be. When our kids wonder if a person is “born that way,” often they’re asking because they assume, “If someone is born gay, it means there’s nothing wrong with it.”īut here’s the critical truth we need our kids to grasp: This is the question behind the question. Why? Because there are better questions we can teach our kids to ask… Better Question #1: Does science teach us what’s right and wrong? People often turn to science to answer these questions, and, of course, there’s nothing wrong with good scientific research.*īut Christian parents don’t need to get bogged down trying to unravel the mysterious origins of same-sex attraction for their kids. Do genetics or brain development have to do with it-are people born gay? Did God make them gay?.Does someone become gay or lesbian because of some kind of trauma?.Are people gay because it was merely their choice to be so?.There’s been a lot of ink spilled over this question-many nature-vs-nurture debates: (Of course, in reality, same-sex attraction has been around for millennia-it’s nothing new.)Īnd the “Why” question is a pretty natural question to ask: Why does someone experience same-sex attraction when most of the world doesn’t? Unless you’ve been living under a rock on another planet, you know in recent years same-sex attraction has been a topic brought to the forefront in both media and politics. It means you’ve fostered a good relationship with your kids, and they want to discuss complex topics with you. Our children are going ask themselves questions about sexual orientation.Īnd if you’re lucky, they’ll want to talk to you about these questions.
Here are my thoughts on handling the question “Did God make them gay?” So, are they born gay? Did God make them gay? This prompted a discussion-as you can imagine, a little more than I had bargained for-about same-sex attraction. “That’s an interesting question,” I replied. I was looking at pictures on Facebook of recent wedding pictures-two women holding hands in brides dresses. He was peering over my shoulder at the computer screen. I groaned a little bit inside as my inquisitive 13-year-old asked me this.